Poor me syndrome

Yes, life at times can be very unfair, hard, painful and just plain wrong.

It is a true strength of character though, that does not allow this to define them. Maybe we are insecure? Perhaps we are just plain lazy? Whatever the case, we can not allow the bad times to gain the upper hand and bring us down.

We let the past or our own stamina, get the better of us. Sometimes you just have to talk yourself in to it! The power of thought, is a beautiful thing.

How many times a week do we hear people say; " it's not fair".

That my friends is, "poor me syndrome".

Some people go through life, expecting that they are owed something. When things do not go as they expect, they tend to blame other people.

Maybe you didn't get invited to that party? Well look at yourself for one moment. Have you bothered to contact that person lately? Why didn't you motivate yourself and go to visit them?

It happens all the time with people searching for jobs. There is a minority of people that choose not to work. They say things like; "It's not fair, why do you only have a month to respond to the job listing?". Then complain when someone else gets the position. No, they shouldn't complain! The person that got the job, showed motivation and enthusiasm for the position.

Then there is the other type of job hunter - will not go to an interview because they find the job beneath them. They say "It's not fair, why am I broke all the time?". I know this because a spent a time on government assistance and watched it happening around me, many times.

If you want a job, they are out there. Forget going to the beach with your mates or sitting around playing xbox. You would not be saying; "It's not fair", if you got up and tried. Who cares if you think it is beneath you, do it anyway! You may learn something about life.

A person I know, is the perfect example of this syndrome. Over the simplest little thing, like a mobile phone.

Everyone around this person had a mobile phone. He was not happy and said; "It's not fair, why don't I have a mobile?". This person was 40 years old at the time!

Finally his family bought him a mobile, as they could not put up with his constant complaining. The gentleman unwrapped the phone, played with it for the first week and barely ever used it again. Every day, his family would hand him his phone and tell him not to forget it. Without fail - he left it behind. The gentlemans wife, took over the phone. For 12 months the wife used it and her husband never used it again.

One day the phone broke, the gentleman got upset. Saying "That would be right, finally get a phone and someone breaks it". " I need a new phone" he said. Whenever his friends talked about their phones, he would complain that someone broke his. Phone television advertisements would come on, you would hear complaints the whole way through.

At their wits end, the family purchased another phone. The gentleman never used this one either. A while later, that phone broke as well and you would not believe it, the cycle started all over again. This has now been going on for 10 years!

The man has spent 10 years of his life, wanting a mobile phone, simply so he can tell people he has one. Puts on the "It's not fair" routine, Every single time the phone breaks.

This is a syndrome that starts very young. You will also find that, the greater percentage of these people, had a mum that would clean up their room for them. Get on top of it early and try not to give your children, everything they want.

They will grow up wanting what they can't have or do not really need. Always thinking that the grass is greener, on the other side of the fence. Have a strong approach in making them realise, that some people are doing it really tough out there. To focus on what they do have in life and appreciate it, rather then focus on what they have not received.

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From the author; Hi everyone. I wrote this hub quite a while ago. At the time, everybody around me was complaining about something. I would be very curious to hear peoples thoughts on my hub. I wrote it with a bit of a fire in my belly at the time. I am not quite sure what people think of it or even if i like it myself?

Who knows, maybe i am being my own worst critic? :) Would love to hear from you all!